P and I are better at co-parenting than JJ's bio father and me. Thankfully, we agree on the big things, have the same values. The few things where we do not agree, are not deal breakers, and we compromise. It also helps that we co-parented a teenager and all three of us survived. The fact that we agree on the big things is interesting. Not only are we an interracial couple, but P was raised as a Catholic, and I was raised as a Seventh-Day Adventist. As luck will have it, we do not practice and are as close to Pagans as it gets. :)
Of course there are many situational differences, but that is to be expected. I was barely out of high school when I gave birth to JJ. I was older and had completed my post secondary education when Baby S came home. I am older and slower, but I am more patient and experienced. In the end, things are balanced.
So what's the difference? Bringing each child home could not be more different. JJ grew in my womb, while Baby S grew in my heart. JJ's pregnancy lasted eight months, while Baby S's lasted two and a half years (our wait). I do not think that there is an animal out there with a similar gestation period. JJ's labor lasted seven hours and forty-five minutes, and Baby S's lasted fourteen hours (travel from San Francisco to Guangzhou). I brought JJ home from the hospital five days after he was born. We brought Baby S home fourteen days after we met.
One thing is the same, and that is how much I love them. I am incredibly fortunate two have been blessed with two amazing children.
Because chocolate milk was not enough. It should not come as a surprise that it is 10:00 p.m. and she is still going strong.